Buying the dress was easy...

07th December, 2012

Buying the dress was easy. I simply typed the words ďpurple dressĒ into eBay, and there, waiting in the very first line of results was my dress. The right colour, the right style, and most importantly, the right size. A couple of clicks and a matter of seconds later Iíd made what most people think of as the big wedding purchase: ďThe DressĒ.

Normal people that is, not a fledgling fume-nerd like myself. For, ever since I found myself engaged last February, Iíve been thinking about what perfume to wear with that dress. What scent is it that I want to be inextricably linked with what is meant to be, after all, one of the most memorable days of oneís life? Iíve got professionals to deal with my hair and makeup, so my wedding perfume really is the most personal of these decisions.

Two years ago, this wouldnít have been a problem. Two years ago, I only owned three bottles of perfume: Acqua di Parma, a soapy-fresh intense cologne that Iíve loved since the first time I ever smelled it, as to me it is the scent of a big, handsome man fresh from a hot, massively sudsy (Imperial Leather, naturally) shower after tough game of rugby. But do I really want to be fantasising about Hugh Jackman on my wedding day? Probably not. So, if I was getting married back in 2010, my other choices would have been Cristalle by Chanel, which brings to mind tiny white flowers and the crisp greens of their stems on slightly damp spring days, which Iíve worn whenever I want to feel feminine or grownup. Being neither in reality, the fragrance has awesome powers as a disguise. My final choice in 2010 would have been by Aromatics Elixir by Clinique. That massive patchouli and rose hand-grenade of a fragrance that I wore with careless abandon throughout my twenties, and that I still wear far too much of even now. I like a perfume to be a perfume. Luckily for my groom-to-be, though, Iíve grown out of my love of Giorgio Beverly Hills ...

In 2010, however, like so many other people, I read Perfumes the A-Z Guide by Luca Turin and Tania Sanchez, and my perfume life has been turned upside down as a result. From the book, I have begun to realise that not every single perfume on the market is a fruitycandyflossmusk pink stew, catering solely to celebrity-obsessed pre-teens as it so often seems. Inspired, I devoted most of 2011 to educating myself about perfume, sniffing everything and everything I could, and now that leaves me with my current dilemma. I have too much choice! So, how do I go about picking my wedding perfume?

Unconsciously, it seems, Iíve set myself some ground rules, and these are they:

Do not pick anything celebrity-endorsed. I donít care how good the fragrance version of Kim Kardashian is (and it is so good that Madonna totally stole the idea for Truth or Dare, letís face it), the thought of telling people Iím wearing KK on my most special of days gives me the heebie jeebies. As it does on most days, truth be told. I still wear it (and giggle) though.

Do not pick anything limited edition. Scent is memory, and there are going to be times when Iím going to want to smell like my wedding again, and, if that scent no longer exists, how would I be able to make it happen? Same thing goes for anything recently discontinued, so, however much I love (and I do) Jean Paul Gaultier Fleur du Male, another beauty with a soapy barbershop accord, it can never be.

And the corollary to that: Do not pick anything too mainstream. I really, really, really donít want to smell like a million other women on my ďbig dayĒ. What if, for example, another guest is wearing the same fragrance? Iím not entirely sure how Iíd handle that one, to be honest. So, sorry Cristalle, and Aromatics Elixir, youíre off the list.

Also: Nothing too sweet and girly. I am neither of those things, Iím a big spiky 42 year old, and the idea of smelling like a fruity stew doesnít appeal. Angel, whilst youíre not really a fruity stew, and I love you, especially in your new leather incarnation (who knew candyfloss and leather could be so sexy?) youíre off the list too.

Which reminds me: Nothing too sexy. Donít want to get the guests all het up in the receiving line, now, do we? So, that leaves Absolue Pour le Soir, with its dripping honey and lingering sensuous resins (replete with just a hint of cat poo and cough drops) way, way out in the February cold. Weíre honeymooning in Paris though, so itíll get an outing there, Iím sure.

And finally: Nothing too challenging. Some non-mainstream fragrances need a few wears to figure them out. Do I really want my wedding guests thinking ďwhat the hell is that?Ē after I hug them? Nuit de Tubereuse, this means you, a little bit. Whilst your creamy drydown is divine, you only get to it after a wander through a tropical swamp armed with only a sour mango for protection. Besides which, MrLippie doesnít like you, and that makes me sad.

So where does that leave me? Ironically, my list of ďmust notísĒ does, in fact leave me some options. After a misfire with my initial choice of Seville a Líaube, a fleshy take on orange blossom that I fell into love at first sniff with, and which MrL decided was too ďheady and strongĒ (heís a philistine, but Iím marrying him anyway, what can I say?), we went for a fragrance profiling at LíArtisan Perfumer. Eventually we managed to pick out the ďhis and hersĒ options of Timbuktu for him and Safran Troublant for me. The spiciness of Safran Troublant is just challenging, and ďdifferentĒ, enough without being too edgy, and the creamy milk and rice of the drydown isnít so gourmand as to make it feel like Iíve spilled food on myself, as a few foody-fragrances are prone to do. And Timbuktu is a great flinty take on incense, with it not being too churchy, and yet somehow still ďcleanĒ, it suits MrL down to the ground, and, judging by the amount of times heís worn it since, itís a winner with him too.

So will these be our wedding fragrances? As yet, I donít know. Iíve been following a policy of paying particular attention to the fragrances MrL spontaneously compliments, and adding those to a mental shortlist. Just the other day he declared that Plum by Mary Greenwell was ďdeliciousĒ, which, indeed it is, and a great example of a modern fragrance which hasnít been dumbed down for the masses. But then, there has been my tried and trusted combination of Serge Lutens Clair de Musc (a fragrance that made me so emotional when I first smelled it that I had to fight back tears in Selfridges, so strong were the memories of the various female relatives who canít be with me on my wedding day) spritzed onto skin prepped with a generous layer of The Body Shop White Musk Oil. This particular combination has garnered compliments from complete strangers, including various hardened beauty journalists ... Well, itíd certainly be unexpected...


About the author

Louise is a management accountant by day, beauty editor by night, and has been writing since 2009 in a (failed) attempt to rid herself of her lipstick addiction. She also writes regularly for SLiNK magazine

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Louise is a management accountant by day, beauty editor by night, and has been writing since 2009 in a (failed) attempt to rid herself of her lipstick addiction. She also writes regularly for SLiNK magazine


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    • Persolaise | 7th December 2012 11:17

      A terrifically enjoyable read, thank you! :-D

      I'm afraid I can't offer any wise suggestions, except to say that I think Timbuktu and Safran Troublant would be absolutely superb choices. They're two particular favourites of mine, and I'm sure they'd compliment each other really well.

      Will you let us know what you decide in the end?

    • Get Lippie (article author) | 7th December 2012 11:40

      Thanks, D. It's the most fun I've had writing anything in quite a while!

      Naturally, once I've decided, I'll let you know. Currently, the race is still wide open ...

    • Nosebud | 7th December 2012 11:56

      Ahh, women on their wedding day. You seem normal as far as how obsessive-compulsive most brides-to-be are. I am not saying that is a bad thing, mind; I don't want my hand bitten off!

      Anticipation makes the pleasure. With that, I wish you congratulations. Thank you for the charming read.


    • Zhi | 7th December 2012 22:06

      Thank you for a lovely article. I agree that fragrance can bring back many memories. When I married my late husband, I purchased and wore a new perfume, One Perfect Rose, created by Guy Robert for La Prairie. It was truly magnificent and I continued to wear it for the too few years of our marriage. Sadly, my husband became very ill and passed away. Soon thereafter I got a phone call from my local Neiman Marcus saying One Perfect Rose was being discontinued and did I want the rest of their stock. I panicked and yes, I bought all that they had. I have spent years trying to find something similar - to no avail. When the book by Lucca Turin and Tania Sanchez came out, my perfume world also turned upside down! They introduced me to so many ideas, notes, resins, etc. that sniffing and collecting has become a favored hobby. I totally agree with your list of ground rules, and, while not knowing either your or your fiance, love your choices. So enjoy your wedding day and whatever perfumes you decide to wear. All the best!

    • Foustie | 9th December 2012 16:52

      Wonderful article Louise. I recently did the fragrance for a friends wedding. I wanted the bride and groom to wear the same fragrance to create one olfactory memeory of the day and they were into that too. After many, many hours of testing various notes, genres, types, they decided.......... on Dior Homme!! It was gorgeous on them both.

    • promqueen | 9th December 2012 21:30

      Panthere eau Legere by Cartier is tough to is a feminine and elegant fougere. Each time I wear it, everyone says "WHAT are you wearing?" It smells clean and rich...but not soapy. I don't see it listed to review on Basenotes, but you can find a bottle on EBay for not too much..the juice is green. Congratulations and good luck

    • 30 Roses | 9th December 2012 22:05

      Whatever you decide on, buy a backup bottle in case it is discontinued, and store it a cool, dark spot. L'Artisan has a history of discontinuing quite a few fragrances.

    • Get Lippie (article author) | 10th December 2012 10:11

      Yes, that is absolutely my plan - whatever I end up wearing! Thank you for the tip xx

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      Promqueen: If it's on eBay, does that suggest that Panther Eau Legere by Cartier has been discontinued? Sounds very lovely though, I shall definitely investigate, thank you!

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      We had originally planned on matching wedding rings, but that fell through, matching fragrances might be a good idea, if only MrL liked more of MY fragrances!

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      Thank you for a lovely comment, Zhi. How great of your store to let you know that they were discontinuing!

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      No, no, thank you! I'm trying, very hard, not to turn into a total "Bridezilla", I can see how it would be very easy to do though!

    • Lila Das Gupta | 10th December 2012 14:30

      Decisions, decisions! Some very wise advice and will be very interested to hear your final choice. Good luck with the big day, the dress sounds fab too! x

    • Papi Le Bon | 12th December 2012 04:45

      Take your time!

      Ormonde Men is a very good option, from my bachelor point of view...

      For her, Iris Nobile, or

      Both in Bandit or both Diorella...

    • mrclmind | 13th December 2012 00:28

      Have you ever heard of the tradition that Neroli is considered highly auspicious for a wedding day? I would recommend a perfume that has neroli as a prominent note!

    • Get Lippie (article author) | 13th December 2012 15:21

      I have heard that tradition - however, our wedding is going to be a little untraditional, so ... also, MrLippie doesn't really like the scent of neroli, so, it's difficult!

    • Dudette | 13th December 2012 17:43

      Acqua di Parma - Profumo

      or at least I'm hoping that this would be my wedding fragrance

      Very expesive and therefore no chance to meet someone wearing it in the same room

    • heavenscent1 | 16th December 2012 14:37

      Thanks for the article, enjoyed it very much. Happy hunting for that perfect wedding day scent! It was Knowing by EL for me.