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    Default Re: Is it ok to wear a fragrance just for yourself?

    Quote Originally Posted by avo1811 View Post
    i can think of no better reason to wear a fragrance
    Perfect response.

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    I am going to go against the current and say no here. Of course, if you are only going to wear them when you are alone, then knock yourself out. But if you are planning to wear them around your friends and family, then I would say no on the grounds that your enjoyment is not more important than theirs.

    On analogy, do you think it’s okay to cook meals for your family that only you will enjoy? Or to pick a movie that only you will like? If you don’t think your own interests are more important than those of your friends and family when it comes to food and entertainment, why would you think any differently when it comes to fragrances?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jon Schmo View Post
    I am going to go against the current and say no here. Of course, if you are only going to wear them when you are alone, then knock yourself out. But if you are planning to wear them around your friends and family, then I would say no on the grounds that your enjoyment is not more important than theirs.

    On analogy, do you think it’s okay to cook meals for your family that only you will enjoy? Or to pick a movie that only you will like? If you don’t think your own interests are more important than those of your friends and family when it comes to food and entertainment, why would you think any differently when it comes to fragrances?
    The OP states "despite my friends and family being quite underwhelmed by it" which implies that they do not actually dislike or hate the scent - a case in which I would agree with you.

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    No. It’s extremely selfish.
    I don’t understand.It is so vast that surpasses all understanding.Understanding is always limited.But not understanding can have no boundaries.I feel like I'm much more complete when I don't understand.Not understanding,like I say,is a gift.Not understanding,but not as a simple-minded.The good thing is to be intelligent and not understand.It's a strange blessing, like having craziness without being crazy.It is a meek disinterest,it is a stupid sweetness.
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    Quote Originally Posted by PrinceRF View Post
    The OP states "despite my friends and family being quite underwhelmed by it" which implies that they do not actually dislike or hate the scent - a case in which I would agree with you.
    I didn’t assume that his friends or family disliked or hated the scent. That’s why I used the analogy of serving your friends and family food that you know they won’t enjoy – not food that you know they will dislike or hate. Generally, I think we should do better by our friends and family (and strangers for that matter) than just stopping short of things they actively dislike or hate.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jon Schmo View Post
    I didn’t assume that his friends or family disliked or hated the scent. That’s why I used the analogy of serving your friends and family food that you know they won’t enjoy – not food that you know they will dislike or hate. Generally, I think we should do better by our friends and family (and strangers for that matter) than just stopping short of things they actively dislike or hate.
    You are thoughtful Jon - more so than I - and I envy you for it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PrinceRF View Post
    You are thoughtful Jon - more so than I - and I envy you for it.
    That is very kind of you to say. Thank you!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jon Schmo View Post
    I didn’t assume that his friends or family disliked or hated the scent. That’s why I used the analogy of serving your friends and family food that you know they won’t enjoy – not food that you know they will dislike or hate. Generally, I think we should do better by our friends and family (and strangers for that matter) than just stopping short of things they actively dislike or hate.
    Yes, this is exactly right! It's important to care about other people.

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    It would be one thing if all your loved ones *hated* the smell on you. It’s sounds like they are just neutral.
    I think that’s most of us here.
    I don’t get many comments either way- so by default, I’m always just buying and wearing what I love.
    Truly, all this talk about compliments- I don’t think it’s even much about the fragrance. Simply the strength and probably application. If a fragrance is loud enough, and not drowned out by other environmental smells- you are a likely to get a compliment. I suspect people who say they get complimented constantly are very heavy on the trigger with all their fragrances.
    Absolutely buy and wear for yourself.

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    Yes
    I am thoroughly selfish.
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    Default Re: Is it ok to wear a fragrance just for yourself?

    Quote Originally Posted by purecaramel View Post
    Yes
    I am thoroughly selfish.
    I find that statement highly debatable.
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    Yes.

    I even brought durian to the office to snack on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CapriDog View Post
    Yes.

    I even brought durian to the office to snack on.
    Ha! Ha! CapriDog, I had to look that up.
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    Is it ok to wear a fragrance for yourself?

    Generally, I'd say no, with exceptions.

    My tastes in fragrances are all over the place, and I buy whatever I like. However, I'm not going to wear something to work, or out socializing, when I know it's considered dated, challenging and even off-putting to others.

    But if I'm going about my day in relative solitude with minimal interactions with people, than I'll probably be rocking Kouros. But definitely not when I'm grocery shopping and have to wait in line.

    If it's a fragrance that some people are underwhelmed by...well that's great for me. I like understated fragrances.

    With all that said, if the fragrance makes you feel good and heightens your confidence, take that into account as well. Maybe the people close to you just have bad taste, and others out there will like it. Or maybe they have a good idea of what works and doesn't work for you, and take that into account as well.

    My favorite type of fragrances are the ones my friends and people in my age group think are "old man." So I just choose when I feel it's appropriate to wear these "disagreeable" fragrances.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Scents And Sense View Post
    Yes! Of course! I wear fragrance solely for myself.
    All the time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hugh V. View Post
    I'll probably be rocking Kouros. But definitely not when I'm grocery shopping and have to wait in line.
    But it's a great way to enforce social distancing!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jon Schmo View Post
    I didn’t assume that his friends or family disliked or hated the scent. That’s why I used the analogy of serving your friends and family food that you know they won’t enjoy – not food that you know they will dislike or hate. Generally, I think we should do better by our friends and family (and strangers for that matter) than just stopping short of things they actively dislike or hate.
    Just to say that no one hated tobacco oud, they just preferred tobacco vanille. I smelt little tobacco in TV but a lot of sweetness. I have chosen tobacco oud and ordered a bottle.

    I will enjoy it on walks with me and my dog. It will put a smile on my face.
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    Quote Originally Posted by teardrop View Post
    But it's a great way to enforce social distancing!
    It was just a matter of time before someone suggested this
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    Mark.B, is there another way of wearing a fragrance... if not for one's own self?
    Before you asked the question, I oddly enough, had never even thought of it.
    Who gives a farthing what others think, perfume is a very private matter--unless you are going to be in close proximity with others, esp. a professional environment and then its courtesy to be mindful of what smells you're exposing others to.

    But, I get what you're saying. Friend of mine came to visit, I took her to Olympic peninsula.
    She wore Caron Farnesiana on that trip, powdery/floral, a very retro feel.
    Half way through, I had to tell here... your perfume is plain killing me, do something!
    I hated it. Gawd, I hated it. I wanted to dunk her in the Pacific by Nia Bay.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mark.B View Post
    Just to say that no one hated tobacco oud, they just preferred tobacco vanille. I smelt little tobacco in TV but a lot of sweetness. I have chosen tobacco oud and ordered a bottle.

    I will enjoy it on walks with me and my dog. It will put a smile on my face.
    But what about your dog? Are you sure the dog will enjoy it? I am kidding, of course. Enjoy! And please don’t think too much of it, should your family and friends catch a whiff or two. No big deal, really. I am sure they want you to be happy and to live your best life.

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    Congrats on your purchase, I hope you‘ll enjoy it a lot.

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    Quote Originally Posted by purecaramel View Post
    Yes
    I am thoroughly selfish.
    I assume you're referring to Leather Oud? Or is that one a crowd pleaser? I get mixed up.

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    No. It’s extremely selfish.
    True. Depends on how comfortable he feels with this, everybody really disliking his new smell and that the people who care about him the most might feel disrepected as he just completely ignored their advice.


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    The idea of telling people "It's my scent of the day or the highway," cracks me up. "If you don't like it, you can leave."

    I couldn't do it. Even for a good laugh.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bavard View Post
    I assume you're referring to Leather Oud? Or is that one a crowd pleaser? I get mixed up.
    Ah Leather Oud. What a charmer. A little dab provides enough stink to have the Dogs howl in the opening. Very quickly it softens to a mellow Leather. Haven't worn it in a while. Good idea Bavard! Crowd pleaser. What's that?
    I will say I pick smaller, more discreet these days as I am in and out of Doctor's offices and hospitals . However I rarely go anywhere without anointing. That said it takes very small amounts of Lapidus Pour Homme to remind people that 2 meters is respectable distance.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mark.B View Post
    Just to say that no one hated tobacco oud, they just preferred tobacco vanille. I smelt little tobacco in TV but a lot of sweetness. I have chosen tobacco oud and ordered a bottle.

    I will enjoy it on walks with me and my dog. It will put a smile on my face.
    Congrats on your purchase! Enjoy!

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    If somebody else wants to wear my fragrance, that's fine. Just say please.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Danny Mitchell View Post
    If somebody else wants to wear my fragrance, that's fine. Just say please.
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    Default Re: Is it ok to wear a fragrance just for yourself?

    Actually, a lot of my fragrances aren't 'just for myself'. My kids also wear a lot of my stuff. I know, that's probably not the original intention of the question. But I'm a very interpretive/abstract fella. I don't mind my kids wearing my stuff. My only gripe is they never put them back where they belong!
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